When you lose a child all you can do is try and keep their memory alive.
It seems to be the popular consensus by those who never experienced such a loss that talking about or mentioning their name will make us sad or remind us that our child has died. We never forget our child has died, however when you talk about them and share stories, you are reminding us that you remembered that they lived , which is probably the greatest gift you can give a bereaved parent.
All we have left is our memories and nothing is more soothing to hear their name and even better to hear how they may have impacted your life. The holidays are extremely hard because no matter how much joy and love we have in our lives, the void of our missing child is felt tremendously.
I talk about her everyday and will continue to do so as long as I am breathing. Yes sometimes the memories bring tears to my eyes and other times I can’t help but smile remembering how funny and quirky she was. So say her name, remember her spirit and embrace the feelings of loss and more importantly the love for her as well as the love received by her.